bukie wrote:As a coach of a highly competitive youth soccer travelling team, I've seen and heard some things that just anger me beyond reason. I worry there might be further abuse going on behind closed doors, because their kids are seriously terrified of them and letting them down.
I've seen parents berate their kids after games (and practices!) if they think they aren't playing well enough for their satisfaction.
I've had parents berate me for daring to bench their child for things like striking other players.
I've had parents scream at me from the sidelines during games because they don't feel their child plays enough for what they pay to be on the team, and then after the game send a letter to the league office asking for my dismissal for that reason.
I've had parents scream at their kids during the games non-stop for 60 minutes of game action.
I've had parents of opposing teams scream at my players during games because of perceived dirty play, including one particular crazy who brought my son to tears on the field because of the things he was saying about him.
I've had player and parents accuse me of favoritism of this player or that player or my son because he or she plays this or that position more often than this other player who is obviously better.
I suppose I'm just jaded and disheartened of sports parents. This abuse story just sounds like it's another thing supported by the children's sports culture that absolutely shouldn't be, and I hope stories like this bring to light what monsters parents can be to their children in the guise of "pushing them to be better".
my daughter is just over 2 years old and i'm excited by the prospect of her getting the opportunity to try different team sports and make the most of those experiences
but i am struggling a little bit with the last bit there about stories like this bringing parent behavior to light, because i feel like anyone who played youth sports competitively in my generation saw this all the time. so while it seems to have grown worse over time, it's nothing new. we don't need awareness so much as competitive organizations that enforce a zero tolerance policy towards these behaviors while working diligently to educate parents and push them to shift the culture. and i don't mean that in a hand-wave "it's just that simple" kind of way; i realize that this alone won't change much, but i don't see it happening without this either
of course, when we engineer sulley's coup, a dad yelling at a sporting event will be swiftly punished with a tazer to the nuts. and while i would not seek nor accept the role of cultural minister, or really any of the lesser ministerial positions, i would spend some political capital to see that this is done. for the health and vitality of the people