The_Achiever wrote:For sure, but even as we've tried that my dad still can't help himself from little side comments.
Anyway that would not be a big deal as in the future I'll only see him once a year max. He doesn't talk on the phone, I just have to decide if I'm going to apologize before I leave. I probably should. I'll feel like a punk in some ways but I can move on with a clear conscience.
I think you answered yourself. If you're going to regret not talking to him before your move it sounds like you're going to have to be the bigger person and go to him calmly and talk. You don't have to apologize for your beliefs, but if you feel like you were out of character with your comments/actions it might be beneficial for your relationship (If that's even what you want). You're either going to have to go back to knowing that you fundamentally disagree on things and can't talk about them with him or just severely limit the contact that you have with him in the future.
I've had many of the same issues as you're describing and at some point I realized what was in my circle of control and what wasn't. I shifted my focus onto what really mattered most to me and became a much healthier person. All the cliches apply, You can't pick your family, You can't fix stupid, etc.
It sounds like your move is going to be a great thing for you where you're at in your life right now. Good luck if you do go and talk to him, hopefully he is civil.